Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Girls...your opinions??

1. After a day of work do you ever come home with your feet hurting?


2. If so then what kind of job do you have?


3. Have your feet ever hurt so bad you took you shoes off?


4. Would you like to have your feet massaged after a day of work?


5. What are the most painful shoes you have ever worn?


6. Whats your favorite color for a pedicure?


7. Would you rather have a back rub or foot rub after a day of work?


8. Would you consider it a good thing if a guy offered to massage your feet for you when they hurt?


9. Would you rather go shopping in comfort of flip flops or look trendy and wear heels and end the day with sore feet?


10. Would your feet hurt worse standing for 8 hours in flip flops or for 3 hours in 4inch heels?


Thanks for answering

Girls...your opinions??
1. Yes, I wear 4 inch plus heels everyday. Looking hot has its price, and its worth every penny.


2. I%26#039;m a makeup artist.


3. Yes, I fling my shoes off and on all day long. But, only for a few seconds. I would probably get the boot if I kept my shoes off for more the 59 seconds.


4. I often get pedicures, and they massage my feet for me. LOVE IT.


5. I can%26#039;t recall. Probably something that was too small.


6. True red or a bright hot pink.


7. Depends on who%26#039;s giving it.


8. See above.


9. I wear heels everywhere but the gym.


10. 8 hours in flip flops. You get used to the heels. It%26#039;s usually after the 5th or 6th hour of standing that they start to hurt.
Reply:Wow...SOMEBODY has a little bit of a foot fetish huh?
Reply:1. no


2. i temp. but usually receptionist


3. no


4. no...i don%26#039;t like people touching my feet


5. my hooker boots or any boots that go up to just below the knee or higher


6. i don%26#039;t get pedicures but my toe nails are usually metallic blue or silver


7. back rub


8. yes, but i wouldn%26#039;t let him. I%26#039;m weird, someone else touching my feet is like one of my biggest fears.


9. flip flops


10. 8 hours in flip flops. its funny, I%26#039;m actually more stable in heels than i am in flip flops.
Reply:1. sometimes


2. i work retail and in an elementary afterschool program


3. yes


4. no


5. i think most dress shoes (esp. heels) are painful the first few times before they%26#039;re broken in


6. a maroon or hot pink/red


7. back rub with oil


8.it would be nice, whether i took the offer or not


9. flip flops


10. the 3 hours in heels
Reply:umm....u must really like feet......that is strange



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Girls...your answers??

1. After a day of work do you ever come home with your feet hurting?


2. If so then what kind of job do you have?


3. Have your feet ever hurt so bad you took you shoes off?


4. Would you like to have your feet massaged after a day of work?


5. What are the most painful shoes you have ever worn?


6. Whats your favorite color for a pedicure?


7. Would you rather have a back rub or foot rub after a day of work?


8. Would you consider it a good thing if a guy offered to massage your feet for you when they hurt?


9. Would you rather go shopping in comfort of flip flops or look trendy and wear heels and end the day with sore feet?


10. Would your feet hurt worse standing for 8 hours in flip flops or for 3 hours in 4inch heels?


Thanks for answering

Girls...your answers??
1. After a day of work do you ever come home with your feet hurting? nope


2. If so then what kind of job do you have?


3. Have your feet ever hurt so bad you took you shoes off? nope


4. Would you like to have your feet massaged after a day of work? yeah, if it was free


5. What are the most painful shoes you have ever worn? flip flops, but they weren%26#039;t flip flops. they were made of fabric.


6. Whats your favorite color for a pedicure? french


7. Would you rather have a back rub or foot rub after a day of work? back rub


8. Would you consider it a good thing if a guy offered to massage your feet for you when they hurt? yes


9. Would you rather go shopping in comfort of flip flops or look trendy and wear heels and end the day with sore feet? heels


10. Would your feet hurt worse standing for 8 hours in flip flops or for 3 hours in 4inch heels? flip flops


Thanks for answering
Reply:1. After a day of work do you ever come home with your feet hurting?





Yes, when wearing high heels shoes.


No, when wearing sport shoes.


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2. If so then what kind of job do you have?





College student


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3. Have your feet ever hurt so bad you took you shoes off?





Yes, if it is tight and high heels


No, if it is sport shoes.


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4. Would you like to have your feet massaged





after a day of work?


Not necessarily


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5. What are the most painful shoes you have ever worn?





11cm heels sandal.


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6. Whats your favorite color for a pedicure?





I prefer my feet to be clean, and without nail polish, but, on general, I prefer the french manicure.


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7. Would you rather have a back rub or foot rub after a day of work?





Probably


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8. Would you consider it a good thing if a guy offered to massage your feet for you when they hurt?





Yes


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9. Would you rather go shopping in comfort of flip flops or look trendy and wear heels and end the day with sore feet?





Comfort shoes.


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10. Would your feet hurt worse standing for 8 hours in flip flops or for 3 hours in 4inch heels?





The effective factor is the time, not the height of heels.
Reply:1. Yes


2. I was in the Marine Corps


3. Yes


4. Why not?


5. Any heels


6. Pink and white


7. back rub


8. most definitely


9. I wear flip flops 95% of the time. The other 5% I wear a pair of Vans.


10. 3 hours in 4 in heels, although standing for 8 hrs in flipflops hurts too





Do you, by chance, have a foot fetish?
Reply:Someone has a foot fetish.
Reply:1 )yes


2)school


3)yup


4)ya!


5)these platform/wedges(3 sized too small, lol)


6)blue


7)foot


8)ya


9)trendy in heels


10)8hours in flip flops


your welcome!
Reply:1. nope not often


2. my job is high school (:


3. nope


4. nooo


5. the pointed toe heels


6. pink


7. back rub


8. yess


9. flip-flops


10. the 8 hours








your welcome (:
Reply:1. not really


2. i%26#039;m in school


3. once when i was in stilettos


4. sure


5. um .. 4 inch stilettos


6. PURPLE! (:


7. yeahh.


8. mmhmm.


9. look trendy. (beauty=pain)


10. 8 hours in flip-flops.





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Reply:1.) Yes


2.) I%26#039;m in school


3.) Yea


4.) Yes!!


5.) A pair of heels that weren%26#039;t to tall just not comfortable


6.) Depends


7.) foot


8.) Yes


9.) flip flops


10.) 8 in flip flops





Why do you like feet so much???
Reply:1. After a day of work do you ever come home with your feet hurting? YES


2. If so then what kind of job do you have? STUDENT


3. Have your feet ever hurt so bad you took you shoes off?YES


4. Would you like to have your feet massaged after a day of work?YES


5. What are the most painful shoes you have ever worn?FLATS THAT DONT FIT


6. Whats your favorite color for a pedicure?FRENCH MANICURE


7. Would you rather have a back rub or foot rub after a day of work?BACK RUB


8. Would you consider it a good thing if a guy offered to massage your feet for you when they hurt?EHMM MAYBE


9. Would you rather go shopping in comfort of flip flops or look trendy and wear heels and end the day with sore feet?FLIP FLOPS ARE TRENDY


10. Would your feet hurt worse standing for 8 hours in flip flops or for 3 hours in 4inch heels?ABOUT EQUAL



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Girls....Opinions Please!?

1. After a day of work do you ever come home with your feet hurting?


2. If so then what kind of job do you have?


3. Have your feet ever hurt so bad you took you shoes off?


4. Would you like to have your feet massaged after a day of work?


5. What are the most painful shoes you have ever worn?


6. Whats your favorite color for a pedicure?


7. Would you rather have a back rub or foot rub after a day of work?


8. Would you consider it a good thing if a guy offered to massage your feet for you when they hurt?


9. Would you rather go shopping in comfort of flip flops or look trendy and wear heels and end the day with sore feet?


10. Would your feet hurt worse standing for 8 hours in flip flops or for 3 hours in 4inch heels?


Thanks for answering!

Girls....Opinions Please!?
1. After a day of work do you ever come home with your feet hurting?


No, never. I%26#039;m on my feet most of the day and I%26#039;m barefoot, my feet always feel very good!





3. Have your feet ever hurt so bad you took you shoes off?


Just once, see #5





4. Would you like to have your feet massaged after a day of work?


No, don%26#039;t like massages, foot massages or otherwise.





5. What are the most painful shoes you have ever worn?


I wore black pumps to go with a vampire costume once in college, they were a little small and I wasn%26#039;t used to pumps anyhow. I took them off right away after the dance. Normally I wouldn%26#039;t wear uncomfortable shoes for fashion%26#039;s sake, even when I still wore shoes at all.





6. Whats your favorite color for a pedicure?


Gold, silver, blue, green...





7. Would you rather have a back rub or foot rub after a day of work?


Neither, really.





8. Would you consider it a good thing if a guy offered to massage your feet for you when they hurt?


Really don%26#039;t care for massages.





9. Would you rather go shopping in comfort of flip flops or look trendy and wear heels and end the day with sore feet?


Bare feet only! I%26#039;ve never cared about looking trendy over comfort.





10. Would your feet hurt worse standing for 8 hours in flip flops or for 3 hours in 4inch heels?


Heels, I%26#039;ve never worn 4 inch heels in my life but I don%26#039;t understand that people can stand up on them, let alone for 3 hours. I wouldn%26#039;t wear them for 3 minutes if I got $1000
Reply:heels would def hurt worse than flipflops! i would rather wear flipflops than heels any day of the week! but i wear heels if im going out in a trendy outfit. id rather have a back rub at the end of the day, i dont like people touching my feet, they are extremely ticklish. and my feet hurt so bad at prom i took my shoes off after being there for 30 minutes.
Reply:1.no


2.Im a beautician..I consentrate alot so I get a headache


3.yes


4.no


5.last week


6.black


7.neither


8.no..he%26#039;ll be a pervet


9.2nd choice ..coze I freak%26#039;n hate flip flops


10.Im a high heel here..but all of my high heel dont hurt me there very confortable..
Reply:1. no


2. -


3. yes


4. yes


5. sandals with heels like these: http://www.babyphat.com/nshop/product.ph... looks painful


6. white


7. back rub


8. yes


9. flip flops


10. 3 hours in 4 inch heels
Reply:r u doing a survey???? definately not the right place....
Reply:1. After a day of work do you ever come home with your feet hurting? yes


2. If so then what kind of job do you have? admin asst 3. Have your feet ever hurt so bad you took you shoes off? all the time =)


4. Would you like to have your feet massaged after a day of work? dream of that everyday


5. What are the most painful shoes you have ever worn? stilletos


6. Whats your favorite color for a pedicure? red of course


7. Would you rather have a back rub or foot rub after a day of work? feet


8. Would you consider it a good thing if a guy offered to massage your feet for you when they hurt? better than sex


9. Would you rather go shopping in comfort of flip flops or look trendy and wear heels and end the day with sore feet? trendy


10. Would your feet hurt worse standing for 8 hours in flip flops or for 3 hours in 4inch heels?


flops I%26#039;m used to heels
Reply:Nope


Don%26#039;t have one


Yup


Probably


3 inch high stilettos


pink


back rub


yes


trendy shoes


3 hours in 4 inch heels
Reply:I don%26#039;t wear either one and i sit all day at work.


Accountant/bookkeeper


I spend a lot to get comfortable shoes that don%26#039;t hurt my feet.


Only teenagers feel they have to have the latest shoes and not the most comfortable ones. Older women are wiser.



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Girls.....Opinions please?

1. After a day of work do you ever come home with your feet hurting?


2. If so then what kind of job do you have?


3. Have your feet ever hurt so bad you took you shoes off?


4. Would you like to have your feet massaged after a day of work?


5. What are the most painful shoes you have ever worn?


6. Whats your favorite color for a pedicure?


7. Would you rather have a back rub or foot rub after a day of work?


8. Would you consider it a good thing if a guy offered to massage your feet for you when they hurt?


9. Would you rather go shopping in comfort of flip flops or look trendy and wear heels and end the day with sore feet?


Thanks for answering!

Girls.....Opinions please?
1. no, i%26#039;m 13 i don%26#039;t work


2. I DON%26#039;T WORK!!!


3. yes


4. yeah... IF I HAD A JOB!


5. 3 inch stilettos


6. probably red or pink


7. back


8. i guess...


9. flip flops all the way! (i hate heels)
Reply:do you have a foot fedish? or do you work in a pedicure salon and youre trying to gimick people into coming in, being a customer and getting pedicures after a hard days work?and my answers are:


1.yes


2.student


3.yes


4.definitely


5.cheap ones


6.bright colors like blue/orange


7.back rub


8.yes


9.i would rather look trendy in high heels and come home with sore feet
Reply:1. Yes, absolutly 12 hour + shifts are killer on the tootsies


2. Veterinary Surgical Tech


3. Yes, of course


4. Yes


5.http://www.demonia.co.uk/contents/media/...


These are my most favorite, and most painful


6. I ususally get black or purple during my pedicures


7. I want both


8. Of course


9. I shop in heels, and only heels!
Reply:1. YES


2.waitressing at chillis


3. yes


4.yesss


5.steeltoe highheals


6.pink


7.back


8.yes


9.flipflops
Reply:frikin foot lover





i dont like to talk about my feet. its personal
Reply:1) yes


2) customer service for wine label printer


3) yes, did that the other day at work.


4) absolutely


5) these really nasty pinky colored shoes for my friend%26#039;s wedding


6) red or dark burgundy


7) back rub


8) yes


9) flip flops or any other comfy shoes I own. but I have a number of comfy boots and heels so that%26#039;s not important. The only caveat I have with shopping is no laces...too slow to constantly have to re-tie shoes.
Reply:1. Yes


2. school


3. yes


4. no


5. payless easter specials


6. red


7. foot


8. n/a (age 13)


9. flip-flops





You seem a wee bit obsessed with feet! lol



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(females answer only) what would you do,and think.?

you are at the gym,we will say.you are done,your feet are aching, you are hot and sweaty,all that. and a gym guy friend of yours comes up to you, we will say he is average nice looking like you would date himguy who you know and we will say you trust to eliminate the he might want to rape me thought.he says very seriously,because he is, that he would be honored to be your slave, he wants to go home with you,and do everything for you,first he will start with taking off your shoes and licking your feet dry and clean then massage them for hours,then anything else you want. whould you say yes or no, and a brief why or why not, please


p.s this is a frat hazing thing for the guy but he%26#039;s not allowed to tell you that. just so you know why im asking this.i dont have to do it just get a yes, massage her feet,get a paper signed then thats it, the lick sweat from toes thing is just what I have to say to make this harder i guess, but i also want to know if this kind of thing makes you girls happy

(females answer only) what would you do,and think.?
uh well maybe i%26#039;d be flattered but i don%26#039;t know
Reply:i have no idea what you are talking about...





rape you? hazing? this sounds like an unhealthy situation.





shrimping? hmm. sometimes it is kinda hot, but i don%26#039;t need the guy i%26#039;m with to always be sucking on my toes.
Reply:It would creep me out too much.





To bad they haven%26#039;t done away with hazing.
Reply:it%26#039;s weird and gross.
Reply:EWWWWWWWWW HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:I%26#039;d be kinda creeped.
Reply:hahaha this is funny. uhh...no i think it would be tooooo creepy. i mean little things yea, but not this...creeeepy.
Reply:no thats pretty damn gross someone licking my feet does not make me happy it%26#039;s actually quite a turn-off. OK. :)
Reply:I think I just threw up in my mouth.
Reply:no i find this creepy
Reply:I find this wrong on 4 levels:


1. frat hazings are wrong to begin with.


2. if you aproach a woman, it should be with sincere interest. imagiane how shes gonna feel when you tell her the truth, or she finds out.


3. coming from the pro domme level, you give the lifestyle a bad name.


4. punctuation, please. geesh.
Reply:i would deff say no and run away. thats nasty. first off i don%26#039;t want any guys near me when im hot and sweaty let alone lick me. expecially my feet. yucky.
Reply:eww no creepy!
Reply:no, that will sound nice coming from a bf, or husband but not a stranger..
Reply:I%26#039;d never, in a million years, want someone touching my feet (let alone licking them or doing anything else to them). That%26#039;s beyond disgusting. I wouldn%26#039;t want a random %26quot;guy friend%26quot; to tell me he wants to be my slave either. That%26#039;s just plain weird. I DO on the other hand like massages but not from a %26quot;gym guy friend%26quot; but more so an intimate massage from say a boyfriend, husband, etc. Many things make girls happy. Feet licking and sweat sucking are NOT in that category (for me anyway).



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Should I speak up about my job?

I work in a small law office with two partners Ashley and Janice. I am assigned to Ashley as her administrative assistant. The job pays well, $35K per year, but it has it downsides. Ashley is really busy and I do everything from getting her drycleaning, fetching her coffee to making sure the cleaning company comes to her home.





This is not great, but recently it got worse. Ashley came back from a client meeting and called me into her office. She said she was beat and asked me to give her a foot massage. This seemed really inappropriate but I did not think I could say no. I sat next to her and she took off her shoes and I proceeded to give her feet a massage. This was really unpleasant as she had been wearing heels and hose all day. While I did this she totally ignored me and talked on the phone to a client.





I felt a little demeaned afterwards, but Ashley has come to expect this now. I was actually considering quiting my job.

Should I speak up about my job?
$35,000 wouldn%26#039;t be enough to make me do that. Hell, Gene Simmons wife could spend that in one afternoon shopping! Go back to college if you can. I would find it demeaning as well. Good luck, %26amp; have a nice day tomorrow.
Reply:You are right this is inappropriate - not least because it could be construed as sexual harresment. Next time she asks - be prepared. Say that you don%26#039;t think it is appropriate for you to do that and give her the details of a company that does and offer to make an appointment for her.





You could be very proactive and get details of one of those in office massage companies and ask her if she wants you to make a regular appointment for her. She pays - not you.





This is a tactful way of saying - not your job - but still pandering to her wishes.





If this does not work have a quiet word with Janice and ask her to have a word with Ashley.
Reply:Tell her that you are not comfortable giving her a foot massage but have found some people that can come in and give the massage professionally. Would she like to put them on a regular schedule? If she insists that she likes the way you do it, tell her that it was not part of the original job description (verbal or otherwise) and you will no longer be doing that.
Reply:administrative assistant ! being the KEY WORDS . you should mention this to her or her boss . you are there to help her with her job details ! not as her physical therapist. and in a calm manner speak with her or her boss in regaurds to your demise. should you injure her foot she can sue you . can%26#039;t she? ,, not that she would ,,,,, just a thought tho ,,, best of luck.
Reply:There are other law firms out there that do not require their assistants to fetch personal things. You shouldnt have to do that and that too for $35K!
Reply:Getting her coffee and fetching dry cleaning is one thing, even though a bit demeaning, but giving a foot massage is over the top. Getting her dry cleaning might allow her some time to attend her job, but there%26#039;s no reason in hell you should be giving foot massages.





Talk to Janice. She is probably very aware of Ashley%26#039;s quirks. If Janice isn%26#039;t offended and won%26#039;t stand up for you, look for a new job.





Alternatively, talk to a lawyer in some other office that does job discrimination work. Document everything, and then refuse to do it one day. If they fire you, you can sue them - it%26#039;s so over the top that I%26#039;m sure you can get it, and although they%26#039;re lawyers, some other lawyer would probably love to have a field day with an improper termination.





FWIW, it%26#039;ll never get to court. They%26#039;ll settle out of court because the last thing they need is that kind of publicity.





Talk to Janice. Document your conversation. If nothing comes of it, take the next step, so to speak.



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Should I quit my job?

I work in a small law office with two partners Ashley and Janice. I am assigned to Ashley as her administrative assistant. The job pays well, $35K per year, but it has it downsides. Ashley is really busy and I do everything from getting her drycleaning, fetching her coffee to making sure the cleaning company comes to her home.





This is not great, but recently it got worse. Ashley came back from a client meeting and called me into her office. She said she was beat and asked me to give her a foot massage. This seemed really inappropriate but I did not think I could say no. I sat next to her and she took off her shoes and I proceeded to give her feet a massage. This was really unpleasant as she had been wearing heels and hose all day. While I did this she totally ignored me and talked on the phone to a client.





I felt a little demeaned afterwards, but Ashley has come to expect this now. I was actually considering quiting my job.

Should I quit my job?
Have you told her how you feel about it? If she thinks you%26#039;re supposed to because it%26#039;s %26quot;other duties as assigned%26quot;, then you might be out of luck. Or you could check with the Stae and see if massages are only legal if you%26#039;re licensed...? ;P





Seriously, talk to her about it, and if she still feels that you should do it, she%26#039;s demeaning you purposefully, and then why would you want to continue working for someone like that?
Reply:Is there a higher-up you can talk to and tell them how you feel?





She is taking advantage of you just because you work under her, and you shouldn%26#039;t have to be made to feel uncomfortable at work. Why should you quit your good job just because she was in the wrong? What does your job REQUIRE you to do? I doubt a foot massage is one of them. That%26#039;s almost too personal. You%26#039;re her assistant, not her servant.





Don%26#039;t be afraid to stand up for yourself. The next time she asks, put your foot down and tell her no.
Reply:Ask for a position description. Ask to review any vague terminology such as, %26quot;duties as assigned.%26quot; Come on, you KNOW that you don%26#039;t have to massage anyone%26#039;s stinky feet to keep a job, right? Contact the Equal Employment Opportunities Commision and file a report if Ashley insists on this to retain your job. All of these things sound like more of a personal assistant than secretarial anyway. Even at that the stinky foot massage is over the limit.
Reply:A foot massage? Seriously, not only is that a servile request, it is inappropriate. Ask yourself if you really like this job. I%26#039;d be calling a recruiter and checking the classifieds. If your income is $35K/year it equals about $17 an hour. (There are 2080 hours in a work year @ 40 hrs a week.) Can you do something on your own and make $17 an hour or more? What does a masseuse make? $50 an hour?





It is demeaning - don%26#039;t kid yourself. Bottom line though, don%26#039;t quit your job until you have another job. If you have accrued any paid time off (sick leave, vacation, comp time) then use these hours to interview. Since this is a small firm, assess your skills and accomplishments so you have something to brag about on your resume and start shopping it to larger firms. Worse case scenario, take this up with your local EEOC or labor board and determine if this can be defined as some sort of harrassment.





If you do like your job, then you and Ashley need to define your job responsibilities and you bill her for ancillary services outside of the scope - like foot massages.
Reply:You would quit over this but you won%26#039;t say that you%26#039;re not comfortable with it because you%26#039;re afraid of getting fired? I would say no and if she fires you because of it then at least you can get un-employment.
Reply:You should talk to Ashley politely but firmly that you are very uncomfortable doing the foot message. She%26#039;s probably gonna ask you why. You want to say something possible related to health and hygiene reasons. You want to stay clear of saying that you don%26#039;t like doing it -- (i.e. Ashley may respond: tough a lot of people don%26#039;t like their jobs).





I don%26#039;t think you should quit your job right now, but it definitely does not hurt to start looking, in case things do not get better, after you talk to her.
Reply:I would tell her that what she is asking you to do is inappropriate and not what you signed up for. If she doesn%26#039;t take this well then you can quit but I would have to let her know why.
Reply:I do not think that you should quit your job but you should definitely talk with your boss about the foot massage issue if it bothers you and maybe inquire about a list of job duties. You should try to resolve the issue first before you quit.
Reply:Ha Ha Ha, not good yes you should quit. Working in a law office she should know that it is illegal. If you don%26#039;t want to quit then make remarks she can hear or tell her interesting facts about bosses getting sued for demeaning employees. If you feel like you can%26#039;t say anything then turn in a letter of resignation. Considering that you are going to leave at that point you should tell her like it is. Maybe even threaten to get your own lawyer. Ha Ha Ha play her game!
Reply:Why don%26#039;t you talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. If she doesn%26#039;t think that anything thing is wrong in it then go find a new job. You should NEVER have to feel like that anywhere...
Reply:I%26#039;d tell her that you think it%26#039;s over the line. Update your resume first and make plans in case things get ugly fast. I%26#039;m betting that if you%26#039;re fired you will get a handsome %26quot;go away%26quot; money package if you document this request somehow.





After all, a sexual harassment suit will be tried in front of a judge that the firm tries cases in front of all the time. Not good.
Reply:you should that is just abuseing it. look for a job that make u confortable and you will fell fappy working there. look for another job there are alot out there.
Reply:I think you need to lay it out there that you feel like rubbing her feet is an inappropriate request and you are not comfortable doing it. You are not a licensed massage therapist, what if you hurt her inadvertantly (long shot, I know, but it could happen) Once you set the standard to her that you can be taken advantage of, she will always do it. You should have no physical contact with your employer in the job you are in and she has crossed the line. Since you are considering quitting, i would go ahead and tell her you are not doing it any more- worst thing that happens is she fires you and you can collect unemployment until you find something new. But you are not wrong to be upset! Good luck!
Reply:Can I suggest that you look at what you will gain and lose because of your action. Start from there.





Also, is there anything else she may want with the foot massage. For the money, I would have done it also. Think about why she asked you for the service.Were you the only one she trusted, felt close enough to ask for, or what. You may think about what you want to do or say if this happens again. Can you get away with an execuse of some sort?


You can also jokingly explain to her, when she%26#039;s not pressured and calm, about what you felt (professionally).
Reply:YOU CAN ALWAYS CHANGE EXPECTATIONS. NEVER LET SOMEONE CAUSE YOU TO FEEL THAT YOU ARE BELOW THEM! THAT IS MY FIRST BIT OF ADVICE. NOW,BEFORE GIVING UP YOUR MEANS OF SURVIVAL, TALK WITH ASHLEY AND LAY YOUR FEELINGS ON THE TABLE. YOU MAY BE SURPRISED AT THE RESULTS! IF THIS APPROACH DOESN%26#039;T WORK OUT THEN MAYBE IT IS TIME FOR A CHANGE. I AM A FIRM BELIEVER IN WHAT IS MEANT TO BE WILL BE NO MATTER WHAT! IF IT IS MEANT FOR YOU TO STAY, YOU WILL. IF NOT, ANOTHER DOOR WILL OPEN! I PROMISE!
Reply:All the other stuff you said, while annoying and not really an %26#039;administrative%26#039; duty, in my book, is perfectly fine. You are the assistant, to assist in whatever things may help the day run smoother. No biggie, HOWEVER, physical touching (even if it is the feet) just totally crosses the line. Next time she asks, have a person lined up who would be willing to come to the office and do on the spot foot massages/pedicures, OR find the closest place that does them, and say, %26quot;Ashley, I never spoke up before now, but I am really not comfortable with the whole foot massage thing. I can call, so and so, and set up an appointment for you instead?%26quot; See what happens. Maybe she had an assistant in the past who did it, offered it, and didn%26#039;t mind it, who knows, but I would think ANYONE would know that this clearly crosses boundaries, and who knows what else she might ask you to do later on down the line.
Reply:You can either:





~ Suck it up and take pride in how well you can go over and above the call of duty.





~ Start tickling her feet every time to the point that it gets annoying to her and she stops asking you





~ For the next occasion (even if you have to invent one), buy her one of those foot massagers that she can just stick her feet into under her desk or something. OR buy her a gift certificate to a place that gives pedicures. Maybe she%26#039;ll get the message.





~ Talk to the other partner about how inappropriate you think it is and maybe the other partner will talk to her about it.





~ Go ahead and start looking for another job.





I%26#039;m not sure what I%26#039;d do. If I really liked working for her and liked her as a person, I wouldn%26#039;t mind making her feel better. Hey, she might include a nice Christmas bonus for me the next year, ya know?! But if I didn%26#039;t really like her as a person, I%26#039;d say screw this crap and find another job.



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